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Proud to Be One of Those "People With Pride"

by Brandon Burt
Posted // 2011-06-05 -

When QSaltLake editor Seth Bracken asked me to answer a few questions for the gay paper's Pride issue, I figured turnabout was fair play -- after all, Bracken was nice enough when I grilled him for a City Weekly "5 Spot" feature in February.

As it turns out, I'm very proud indeed to have been included, in QSL's "People With Pride" feature, among such admirable folks as PFLAG-Ogden President Allison Black, Utah State University LGBTQA resource coordinator Maure Smith-Benanti, Utah Pride Center transgender youth program coordinator Rose Ellen Epstein and Volunteers of America-Utah media-relations veep Zach Bale. These people do so much untiring and important work for the LGBT community that I fear my own little erratic scribblings fade into insignificance. (And, for that matter, how could such a one as I ever compare with the great Princess Kennedy?)

Now, I'm a constant worrier. And, after I filled out Bracken's questionnaire, I became concerned about one of my answers -- specifically, about some grammatical issues that it brought up. In fact, I even sent in some corrections, which QSaltLake was kind enough to accept after the fact.

"QSL: What does this year’s Pride theme, Live. Love. Pride., mean to you?"

"BB: I am 100 percent in favor of living, and loving, and priding. Except, well, 'priding' isn’t really a word, is it? I mean no offense to the committee, but the thing that bugs me is that 'to live' and 'to love' are both verbs, so stringing them together with 'pride' – which, standing alone like this, is usually a noun – produces a weird, jangling, anticlimactic effect. I would have preferred the triple-noun construction 'Life. Love. Pride.' But, hell: It’s June! The weather is glorious! And, it’s Pride, the most wonderful time of the year! So why should I quibble? We should live, and we should love, and we should be as proud as all get-out. Pride is the antidote for shame, which is why the anti-LGBT people fear it so much: Pride defuses the most powerful weapon in their hateful arsenal."

Well, of course, later I realized that "priding" is a perfectly good word -- as in "Aunt Bea felt guilty for excessively priding herself on the tartness of her pickles." But, after Bracken had been so good about accepting my earlier correction about how "pride" isn't always a noun, I decided to just let it go. I think my point was that the verb "to pride" is transitive, requiring an object; whereas "to live" is intransitive, and "to love" is ambitransitive. Sigh. Grammar is so cruel sometimes.

I also feel obligated to point out that, despite what QSL says, I am not currently an "Associate Editor at City Weekly." [Note: The misattribution has now been corrected in the online edition.] Although I maintain close ties to City Weekly, and I consider my years on staff at CW -- first as copy editor, then as assistant managing editor -- as some of the happiest in my career, I left the staff in 2009 to become a freelance writer.

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Posted // June 13,2011 at 23:24 Brandon - Grammar doesn't kill people, people kill people! Nick - Go fuck yourself!


Posted // June 6,2011 at 11:18

Lets go back to basics and what happend during Stonewall. Gays were concidered outcasts low life citizens. Some homophobic persons who worked in NYC police and city government decided to

clean up the city! They showed this hate to admonish gays. The gathering place was the Stonewall bar Grenwich Village.The gays who were there that night were the target for the police action That night the police went into the bar and started using force against some of the patrons! Some of the patrons were just totally fed up about police brutality and anti gay demonstration. So some of the patrons fought back! Maybe Pride is an acronym Police Riot it did end!

Needless to say it is about "rights" that gays did not and still not have today. We merley want to be concidered no longer as second class citizens where there is no more hate. We dont want to hide in the closet anymore! We just want rights just like any other citizens that live in a free society. As we no longer want to be treated as second class. Or scorned and hated anymore. Enough is enough it is time to give gays the rights like anyone else!


Posted // June 12,2011 at 02:53 - So, basically, Nick the Greek, what you're asking us to do is to give up seeking equal treatment, since there will always be people in the world who oppose equality based on religious beliefs?

Honestly, I think the LGBT movement is winning -- so why should we stop now?


Posted // June 6,2011 at 12:52 - I understand. I'm aware of the Stonewall incident, Joseph, like I'm aware of the segregated lunch counters of the 60's, too. Here's the rub on your comment for me: "We merely want to be considered no longer second-class citizens where there is no more hate." You aren't going to accomplish that, unfortunately, for that would require removing all hate from the planet and history, religion and politics tell us that's not going to happen. So, I'm back to the basic proposition that I'd rather not have to know that you're gay when I first meet you or do business with you, by your behavior, your wardrobe or speech. I mean, who goes around telling people,"Hi, I'm a straight photographer or doctor or real estate agent," and then goes on to conduct business? Who gives a shit, really?


Posted // June 6,2011 at 09:36

Equality means being treated like anyone else. I long for the day when I don't know from your behavior or wardrobe or speech that you're gay or I'm straight. Why do I HAVE to know that you are gay, Brandon? Why can't I just go about my business throughout the day treating people like equals rather than a special class of citizens that are on the look-out for violations of human dignity? I can imagine the howling and barking, from all points, if we celebrated heterosexuality in the same manner that a seeming majority of gays want to celebrate their lifestyles. Can you imagine a Hetero Pride Parade in SLC? Strippers, hookers, race cars, pizza bakers, beer brewers, family law attorneys, massage parlors, Hair Clubs for Men, Oath Keepers for Idiots, 72-hour Emergency Storage stores, gun stores, fishing outfitters. . .hang on. . .this is starting to sound like Days of '47.


Posted // June 14,2011 at 02:29 -

Nick the Greek, there's really no reason that you should have to know I'm gay, although the fact that I write a blog known as "Brandon's Big Gay Blog" probably offers a clue.

I understand that the LGBT community's annual celebration of "pride" is sometimes puzzling for some heterosexuals, even though the event has been going on for four decades or so.

By now, it should be obvious that "pride" is an antidote to the shame which the world visits upon queer individuals. Growing up, we're supposed to feel ashamed for not measuring up to society's heterosexual ideal.

So, once a year, we counteract this shame by celebrating "pride." Sorry if it offends you. But, if it's any consolation, you get to celebrate heterosexual pride the other 362 days of the year.

Good luck with that!


Posted // June 5,2011 at 02:55

Sometimes I wish I was homosexual. There's many reasons of course, but one that I feel need to mention is that I wouldn't be ashamed of my sexuality anymore.


Posted // June 6,2011 at 00:05 - Eric -- I've heard that "Every day is Straight Pride Day." The point of LGBT Pride is to counteract the shame that society heaps upon us every day. I know it seems hokey and overly dramatic, but it actually works. And, hell, it's a good party, isn't it?